Usually when you hear the word friends you think of the iconic 90’s TV show. It’s been on late night TV a lot so my roommate and I watch it. It’s amazing how even on a TV show how the idea of having a group of ‘best friends’ is something everybody strives for. Having friends. In the show, no matter what happens they always forgive each other and come back as friends. It makes conflict look easy. The very term friends or friendship brings a smile to most peoples faces. Friends are something a lot of people depend on for advice, companionship, and just having someone to laugh at things that appear in this crazy journey we are all on called life.
Facebook redefined the way we look at friendship. Now you can easily have 1,000 “friends” but how many of those people do you actually know? How many of those people have you sat down with and had a nice conversation that wasn’t comments or over Facebook chat? How many friends if they needed help would you actually go help? or are they just a random person on your friends list? How many of us get so wrapped up in updating our little online lives that we forget to have a real life outside of it?
I find that most people are very okay with shallow friendships. Just the surface, see each other at school and go about my day friendships. That’s okay I guess… but I really don’t understand that. Maybe because I’m the type of person to want deep relationships with people. I’ve realized that that is one of my problems is that when that doesn’t happen with EVERYBODY somehow I take it personally. I’m realizing that no one has the time or the energy for that. You will have deep relationships with people. It may be a few people over your lifetime, or maybe it is many people over your lifetime. The question is, what do you do with what is given to you? We all impact the people around us in bigger ways than I think any of us will ever comprehend.
The original intent of this post was going to be about how we all need to pursue those deeper friendships, but since then I’ve changed my mind. I think we just need to be aware of the people in our lives and not take them for granted. Time is short and you never know when something will happen and you won’t have later. How many people have I taken for granted here at school and they were gone in the next semester with very little advanced warning. For all the people that say they have no one to talk to, how do you know if you won’t try? We all are surrounded by people and most of us are waiting for the other person to speak up. It probably won’t happen so take the first step. Say hi to the girl sitting next to you in class. Say hi to the guy on the bus. Just try and see what happens. Who knows, they could be your next movie buddy, or best friend.